Monthly Archives: May 2015

Celebrate the Small Things – EVERYTHING MATTERS

Hey everyone! It’s Friday and time for another posting of Celebrate the Small Things brought to us by LEXA CAINPost anything in life that you’re celebrating, no matter how small or big, on your blog.

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Make Celebrate the Small Thingssure your blog post has a link to the sign-up as well, so other bloggers will be able to sign-up and hop around too. 

This is such a simple and easy blog-hop, and it also happens to be one of my favorites.  After posting the things you have to celebrate, please don’t forget to visit and thank Lexa and her awesome and amazing co-hosts for the wonderful job they do:

 

 LG Keltner @ Writing Off the Edge
Katie @ TheCyborg Mom

This has been another one of those weeks, but I always manage to find something to celebrate, no matter how small

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Sophie says, “Hi. Oooh, is that a treat?”

This week I’m celebrating the fact that my little Lhasa Apso Sophie came home after spending a long weekend with my ex. I missed that hairy little thing.

I’m also celebrating the fact that I celebrating my first Blogiversary here on WordPress for this blog. (Actually it was two weeks ago, but I kept forgetting to include it in my celebrations!) Better late than never!

Best of all, I’m still here and blessed with some very special people in my life.

What have you celebrated this week?

 

 

 

 

 

 

VERSATILE BLOGGER AWARD!

Hello blogger friends. I have to say, after the daunting couple of weeks I’ve just gone through, I was stoked to find some good news waiting for me. VB

Fellow blogger buddy Jen from jabrushblog nominated me for the Versatile Blogger Award, and I am so stoked!

Thank you, Jen! Read about her nomination and her nominees on her post here.

 

 

Here are the rules of the Versatile Blogger Award:

  1. Provide the link and name of the blogger who nominated you – and thank them.
  2. Share 7 facts about yourself.
  3. Nominate any number of fellow bloggers, adding a link to their blog.
  4. Share these rules with them.
  5. Go and make yourself some coffee and/or write a nice letter to someone.

Seven facts about me:

  1. I love flowers, especially lilacs; they remind me of my mother. They were her favorite.
  2. I am addicted to House of Cards and Orange is the New Black.
  3. I am a Zombie freak.
  4. I prefer Dunkin’ Donuts coffee over Starbucks any day of the week.
  5. My favorite food is Mexican.
  6. I’ve been honored with several Emergency Medical Services awards over the years from various agencies, including recognition for service on 9/11/2001, pre-hospital deliveries, and cardiac arrest saves.
  7. I’m a huge Baltimore Ravens fan, even though I’m a New Yorker.

My nominees for this award are:

  1. Blogger friend and fellow stroke fighter Megan at Stroke Survivor
  2. Blogger and writer Denise over at DeeScribes.
  3. Blogger friend, writer, and one of my cheerleaders CaffeMaggieato at Just Get It Written
  4. Fellow blogger and writer I met through the A-Z Challenge, roweeee at Beyond the Flow.
  5. Blogger, friend, writer, and another cheerleader, Deanie Humphrys-Dunne at deanieblog.
  6. Blogger and fellow activist Cheryl Wright at Plucking Of My Heartstrings.

Some of you may already have the award, and I understand if you choose not to participate. I just wanted my blogger friends to be acknowledged. 😀

Now I’m going to advise my nominees and instead of coffee, I’m gonna have some juice, cuz it’s late.

 

Celebrate the Small Things – THANKFUL FOR

Hey everyone. Sorry I’m a little late to the party because I’m posting on Saturday for Celebrate the Small Things brought to us by LEXA CAINPost anything in life that you’re celebrating, no matter how small or big, on your blog. 

Sign up by clicking on the image, hop around and celebrate with others.

Make Celebrate the Small Thingssure your blog post has a link to the sign-up as well, so other bloggers will be able to sign-up and hop around too. 

This is such a simple and easy blog-hop, and it also happens to be one of my favorites.  After posting the things you have to celebrate, please don’t forget to visit and thank Lexa and her awesome and amazing co-hosts for the wonderful job they do:

 

 

LG Keltner @ Writing Off the Edge
Katie @ TheCyborg Mom

It’s been a pretty rough week, so I’m just going to get down to it and jot down what I’m thankful for:

Tamera and her brother for helping me through a rough patch this week,

My Fellowship of the Dragon for letting me rant and rave, just because I needed to. I don’t know what I would do without them, probably be insane right now.

Thankful that my friend Luis is helping me with some cable crap I’m going through.

Best of all, I’m still on this side of the grass (thanks for the line Grandma Dragon!).

What have you celebrated this week?

 

 

 

Redefining Disability Challenge – PREFERENTIAL TREATMENT- RELATIONSHIPS

Hello blogger friends and welcome. Here is another post for the redfng-disblty2Redefining Disability Challenge started by Rose B. Fischer. If you click on the image to the left, you can see exactly what it’s all about and feel free to join. Answer as many of the 52 questions as you like, or the ones that pertain to you. There is no time limit. Answer them in one post, one a day, a week, or whatever fits your needs.

I’m going to spread the questions out over the remainder of the year since a lot of the questions pertain to me already. For today’s post I’m going to answer question(s) 18 and 19.

18.   Have you experienced preferential treatment because of disabilities? — By preferential treatment, I mean situations where you were treated better or differently from your peers even though there was no valid reason.  I have to answer this question with a yes because I do get preferential treatment from time to time. Although my gait has greatly improved with physical therapy, I still have people jumping out of their way to open doors for me and offer to help me find things, reach for items, etc., particularly in stores. This rarely happened before my illness.

I know the intentions are good, but unless I specifically ask, I’d prefer trying to do things myself. It’s the only way I know how to find my independence again.

19.   In what other ways are your interpersonal relationships affected by disabilities? — Examples might be that it’s harder for you to form or maintain relationships or that people treat you differently once they realize you have a disability. This is a tough one because there are so many ways that relationships, the way people treat me, and my attitude towards them have changed.

While I was critical in ICU, my ex prayed in chapel day in and day out for my recovery and posted all over to cherish what you have because you never know what tomorrow can bring. We were basically over before the bleed; my understanding is that my illness was the ‘epiphany’ needed to get us back on track. While I’m forever thankful for the prayers, my ex wasn’t strong enough to handle my recovery.

The first two months out of inpatient rehab were fine, but then I was basically on my own. I had no friends in PA, and no support system. My friends were there for a while, but slowly went back to living their own lives (except for a special two or three).

I huddled more and more into myself, until I thought I would implode. Four months out of rehab, my ex started behaving as if I were ‘cured’. The attitudes came, the arguments, the belittling, and I couldn’t handle it. I became a yelling, screaming, stuttering mess of my former self. I couldn’t string a coherent sentence together without going into a rage; a rage that was aimed more at myself and my brain than anyone else.

My only solace was online. I began blogging in February 2013. I joined stroke groups and vented there. I wrote to other survivors and we shared stories, because people in life didn’t understand me or what I was going through.

I’ve been told that I’m too trusting, and I’ve learned the hard way that I am. I’ve always thought it’s better to give than to receive. I don’t treat myself to much, but I love giving gifts to people I care about. Sometimes the people you care about aren’t the people you thought they were. Once you have a disability, particularly a brain injury, some people take that as an opportunity to take advantage. Yes, it happened to me. I’ve been stolen from by someone I thought was a friend. Of course, I’ve since written him out of my life.

People sometimes ask me if I ever plan on having a relationship again. I’d like to say I would, but I can’t say. I have too much on my plate. I’ve been hurt too many times and I’m still recovering. I ask myself, who would want to be bothered with a recovering strokee? Seriously.

I don’t want to be treated with kid gloves. I want to be treated with the same respect I try to give others. Yes, sometimes shit comes out of my mouth unexpectedly. My brain wires still cross and thoughts to mouth sometimes don’t connect properly. What I think and what I say aren’t always the same. That’s frustrating as hell.

Things have gotten better in the years since the hemorrhage, but I still have work to do. This is a never-ending fight for wellness. But as one of my fellow physical therapy cohorts said:

‘As long as we’re vertical, we’re good’.

 

 

 

Celebrate the Small Things – WEEKLY CELEBRATION

Hey everyone! It’s Friday again and time for another posting of Celebrate the Small Things brought to us by LEXA CAINPost anything in life that you’re celebrating, no matter how small or big, on your blog.

Sign up by clicking on the image, hop around and celebrate with others.

Make Celebrate the Small Thingssure your blog post has a link to the sign-up as well, so other bloggers will be able to sign-up and hop around too. 

This is such a simple and easy blog-hop, and it also happens to be one of my favorites.  After posting the things you have to celebrate, please don’t forget to visit and thank Lexa and her awesome and amazing co-hosts for the wonderful job they do:

 

 

LG Keltner @ Writing Off the Edge
Katie @ TheCyborg Mom

I have a few things to celebrate this week, but I don’t want to sound redundant. It seems that a few posts from my alter-ego site, lilicasplace, addressed the same questions a couple of times. In a nutshell, I’m celebrating:

-the fact that I enjoyed my daughter’s company for the entire Mother’s Day weekend.

-got some writing and blogging done.

-Caught up on some things that needed catching up on.

-Most important, I’m still here and blessed with some very special people in my life.

What have you celebrated this week?

 

 

 

STROKE AWARENESS MONTH

Hey blogger friends. Most of you are aware that my disability stems from a hemorrhagic stroke I suffered back in November, 2011 secondary to a ruptured brain aneurysm. I believe I also mentioned that during brain surgery to repair the damage, I also suffered an ischemic stroke.

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Click to find out more about Stroke Month

I wanted to remind you all that May is National Stroke Awareness Month. A lot of people are under the assumption that strokes mostly happen to the elderly. That couldn’t be further from the truth!

Only 46 at the time I had mine, I’ve lost people close to me even younger. Strokes can happen to anyone, at any age – even in utero. Educate yourselves.

 

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I was lucky; I got to live. I won’t lie. It’s been no joy ride, that’s for sure. If you can lower your risk factors for stroke, do it.

Don’t go through what I’m going through, and so many others like myself are going through if you can help it.

Granted, sometimes it happens to the healthiest of people with no rhyme nor reason, and that makes this especially disturbing.

There is a lot of information out there for individuals on helping lower stroke and heart disease risk. Once you become one of ‘us’, a survivor, then there’s not so much. That’s why many of us come together and help each other figure out ways to help ourselves.

That being said, I hope you all have a great day.

 

IWSG – KEEPING UP

Hello fellow bloggers and writers. It is the first Wednesday of the month and that means it’s time for the Insecure Writers Support Group – #IWSG.

Click on the Image to Join

Click on the Image to Join

Ninja Captain Alex J. Cavanaugh , my hero, adopted brother, and one of my mentors, founded this amazing and wonderful group.

Its purpose is for writers of any kind to share their doubts, trials and tribulations without fear of being mocked or feeling foolish. It’s also a place where writers who have “been there” can offer wisdom and guidance.

Whenever anyone finishes a draft, edits their work, finds the perfect critique group, publishes their work, or has any other good news to share, this is the place to do it too!

The awesome co-hosts for the May 6 posting of the IWSG will be me at my alter ego site: Eva Solar at lilicasplace, with Melanie Schulz, Lisa-Buie Collard, and Stephen Tremp!

Make sure you pay a visit and thank them for all their hard work!

I neglected this blog a bit last month and I apologize sincerely for that. I was in up to my knees trying to keep up with the A-Z Challenge last month at my other blog, but at least I finished it. 😀

Now I need to spend more time with this blog, since it’s been my baby for a while now. Keeping up with it has been difficult to do even before last month because of issues with my health, Medicare, meds, and other non-writing related stuff.

Sometimes I’d rather live in the made up worlds I create in my head (the good ones, anyway). I know that’s not good for me, nor is it healthy. I’m working on it though, believe that.

Now that the April challenges are over, I’ll make time for the phone calls, arguments, and straightening out the red tape with Medicare. If I have to, I’ll get the doctors involved.

Don’t you wish you could run away sometimes?

Until next month…